When Eminem wrote in Lose Yourself:
I’ve got to formulate a plot ‘fore I end up in jail or shot
Success is my only ****option, failure’s not
Mom, I love you, but this trailers has got to go
I cannot grow old in Salem’s Lot
So here goes my shot
Feet fail me not ‘cause it’s only opportunity that I got
He recognized that “carpe diem” should be more that a cliché that people learned from watching Robin Williams in Dead Poet’s Society. The Buddha instructs us to not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, but concentrate the mind on the present moment. We must believe that what we do today, now, defines us. Failure is not an option.
I am a parenting god. I successfully put son and daughter to bed without pulling all my hair out. For dinner, son had corn, green beans, and black beans. After that, he had a banana, a bowl of grapes and then it was bedtime. We read a l’il monsters book and one about a spider who works his way until he can afford an umbrella and not be washed out the spout (he didn’t accept failure, and neither would I). Soon, son and I faced off; “I want something to EAT!”
“I want something to EAT!”
“I want something else to EAT!”
“Goodnight son, I love you…”
“I want something to EAT!”, repeated son ad nauseum for the next five minutes. I brought him up a small bowl of grapes which he said he didn’t want; “I want a COOKIE!”
“No.” So I left to go downstairs and tell daughter to sneak up to her room and read for 15 minutes then lights out. Son had stopped screaming but was looking out his door. He then got up out of bed (uh-oh) but returned 20 seconds later with a small bowl in his hand. He then proceeded to eat the grapes and place the bowl on his side table. He grabbed his comforter, pulled it up and put his head on the pillow. Success! I conquered “the Now”, and it only took twenty minutes.